While some men don’t want to settle down and claim a girlfriend, most
men don’t need any “girl…friends” either. After all, what man wants to
just “hang out” with a beautiful woman?
That’s what his boys are for. It’s totally possible for men and women
to be platonic friends, but that’s not normally how it starts.
The man is attracted to a woman, he asks her out, and they spend time
together. But then somewhere along the line, said man falls into the
dreaded “friend zone” – and he has no idea how he got there. He’s not
sure if she’s playing hard to get, or if he’s been hoodwinked – and
while he’s trying to figure it all out, the woman knows exactly what
she’s doing. If you’re not sure if you’re being played for a fool, here
are some signs that she just might be using you.
1. You Are Her Personal Chauffeur
You have a car…she doesn’t. This is not a big deal, and being the
gentleman you are, you have no problem picking her up for dates. But
after a while, you’re not just picking her up to go to the movies.
You’re driving her to work, to her doctor’s appointment and even to her
friends’ house. As a matter of fact, she asks you to drive her AND her
friends around – to the club, the mall, wherever. But she’s attractive,
so you do it, even if it’s totally out of your way. The way you see it,
she’ll think you’re such a nice guy that she might even invite you
INSIDE of her home one day.
But she doesn’t, and you barely get a kiss on the cheek for all of
the gas you’ve burnt up. If she’s given you ZERO indication that she’s
even remotely physically attracted to you, then she’s using you for a
ride. Unless you’ve at least gotten to second base, keep your car parked
and let her figure out how to get around herself.
2. You’re Her Flunky
It’s not enough that you drive her around, but sometimes she sends
you out WITHOUT HER to run her errands. She asks you, in that ever so
sweet voice of hers, to pick up her dry cleaning “since it’s on your way
home.” She has to work late, so she wants to know if you’d be a dear
and walk her precious dog for her. And you do it, because you figure
that’s what a good boyfriend would do, right? Right.
Problem is, you’re not her boyfriend, you’re her errand boy; and any
hopes you had of becoming her boyfriend went out the window along with
your dignity. She’s not going to date you because she doesn’t respect
you. Some women don’t like a guy who does whatever she says or who she
can walk all over. What you see as kindness, she may view as weakness.
It’s sad but true. There’s nothing wrong with being a good friend, if
that’s all you want to be. But if you want more, and she’s not giving it
to you, despite all of your good intentions, then bounce…and let her
hire an assistant.
3. You Are Her “Go-To” Date
If you find that she only wants to go OUT – to the movies, a concert
or to her favorite restaurant, chances are she just wants to get out of
the house and you are her “go-to” date. Every time she calls, you’re
always available…probably because you sit around waiting for your phone
to ring. She knows this, and she also knows that you will do anything to
be in her presence. If she’s always busy when you invite her to your
crib or you’ve never seen the inside of her place, then she probably
doesn’t want to be anywhere where something could jump off…and she’d
have to turn you down. Just once or twice, be busy when she calls or
tell her “no” to an outside date and see how she reacts. If she’s bent
out of shape or stops calling, then you’ll know she’s probably not that
into you.
4. You Pay For ALL Dates
Not only are you her “go-to” date – you also PAY for ALL of the
dates. Some women expect men to pay for all dates, and some men even
agree with that. But you shouldn’t be going broke while you’re trying to
figure if she actually even likes you. If you’ve got the means to stick
it out until she magically falls in love with you, then rock on. But if
you have to take out a small loan just to keep courting this woman,
while she NEVER ever offers to pay for anything, then stop…now. See how
long she wants to “date” you when you tell her that you forgot your
wallet.
5. You Pay Her Bills
It’s one thing to pay for dates, but it’s another thing to pay her
rent. There’s nothing wrong with helping out a friend in need, or
LOANING someone some money until they get on their feet. But unless you
are her MAN, and you KNOW this, then there is no way you should be
paying for anything that’s in her name. Men and women use each other all
the time for different things, but you’re a straight up sucka if she
hands you a utility bill and you actually pay it…regularly. And don’t
try taking her to court when she drops you for some other fool and
you’re out hundreds or thousands of dollars. She’ll claim it was a
“gift” and you’ll never get your money back. Listen to what I’m telling
you and save yourself from having to learn an expensive lesson on your
own.
6. You’re Mr. Fix It
You’ve let it be known that you’re pretty handy when it comes to
fixing things, so she invites you over one Saturday afternoon to “help”
her paint her house. You think it’ll earn you some cool points – and
you’ll get to be INSIDE her place and you can seduce her while you wait
for the paint to dry. WRONG! All she’s going to do is find a way to be
busy “doing something else” while you paint, and when you’re done,
she’ll suddenly need a ride to Home Depot to pick up some things for the
next project you’ll be working on. So you drive her there (See #1) and
pay for all the materials (See #5) and then go back to her place to
install her new cabinets, hang some shelves and fix her leaky faucet.
She doesn’t even offer to feed you (See #4). She rushes you out of her
house when the work is done because she’s “tired” (has a date with
someone else) so you leave, hoping for another chance to get closer to
her bedroom. You, my friend, have been had. Next time, tell her to hire a
contractor and keep it moving.
7. You’re Her Confidante
So by now, you realize that you’re in the” friend zone”, but you
don’t care. You think you still have a chance to woo her, so you
continue to be her shoulder to cry on hoping that one day she’ll come to
her senses and realize what a wonderful, caring, compassionate man you
are. So you endure endless hours of her late night calls crying to you
about the jerk who broke her heart (again). You encourage her complaints
about all the no-good men out there and remind her that if she were
your woman, you’d never hurt her and treat her like the queen that she
is. Little do you know, she’s a glutton for punishment, only likes “bad
boys” and thinks nice guys like you are weak and pathetic. Dude, run…or
else she’ll just continue to use you up and walk all over you. You’re
wasting your time if you think she’ll change her mind about you – and if
she finally ever does, it’ll be too late…because you will have found a
woman who appreciates you.
8. You’re Her Sex Toy
Now, this might not be a problem for most men out there, but if you
are genuinely interested in having a real relationship, getting married
and having kids one day, then you might want to find a woman who wants
you for more than sex. Believe it or not, there are women out there,
like men, who have jump-offs who they will never be seen out in public
with. The sex is earth shattering, but she doesn’t want a relationship,
OR, she doesn’t want a relationship with YOU. Maybe you’re too short,
don’t have a job, have multiple children with multiple women, have some
teeth missing…who knows. Either way, she doesn’t want her girlfriends to
know about you, so you become her dirty little secret and she calls you
after midnight to come by and crack her back. Now, again…some, if not
most, men would be fine with this arrangement. But if you’ve somehow
caught feelings for her, then it’s best you leave now before your heart
gets broken into a million little pieces once she finds a guy she can
actually be seen in daylight with.
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